It’s so frustrating because I like making calls on overwatch but I do simply not have the energy to deal with men who make it a huge deal that I am a woman whether it’s “positive” or negative attention, I just want to play.
In the beginning when I started gaming I used to do this, but now when I’m average to good at a certain game I flaunt it 😂 Catch me with a really girly nickname ✨ specially when I did VERY WELL in a round I go “GG’s UwU <3” just to be extra
It’s not surprise to us but there are sooo many gamer guys that don’t know and/or believe this lol. I’ve seen plenty of threads in this sub where a guy says “I changed my voice with voicechanger and couldn’t believe the amount of harassment I’ve gotten” yeah NO SHIT
whaaaaat? you mean all those posts about voice changers are to avoid being attacked by assholes? or how alot of women are forced to change their tag to something less feminine to not get griefed/kicked 10 seconds into a match? shocking!!!! /s
I straight up deepen my voice to that of a blazed out fuck boy for some games with prox chat lmao. I got tired of having to either be invisible or be harassed with dumb shit constantly. It’s fucking AWFUL out here.
It’s kind of don’t ask, don’t tell situation now. I don’t tell people in a game what I am and if they refer to me as him as a generalized pronoun based on assumption (as in: gamers seem to assume most other gamers are male) I let it fly without correcting them with a *”her or them, please?”* as it doesn’t gain me any satisfaction. In turn most people don’t ask as I rarely use voice chat and the games I play largely have a mature enough crowd to not care what I am. I imagine that’d be different in popular battle royale shooters where the majority of gamers are in the mid-teens to early twenties.
I always was so surprised when I saw girlies complaining about being harassed when playing games and maybe only a year ago I realised that I’ve never referred to myself in any feminine forms or used voice chats. On one side I’m happy I was “smart enough” to do so, on the other…. _What the hell is wrong with all those people,_ stay safe out there folks
I really wish I could use a cute name on steam or overwatch but I avoid it because I don’t want people to know i’m a woman most of the time. I really wish it wasn’t that way.
Amazing how many men don’t realise this. A friend of mine wanted me to play some online shooter with him, I said yeah, give me a moment to change my display name and make sure all the chat stuff is off. He asked why…
In Fallout 76 I’m constantly finding women players with “male” sounding names (____kenny or ____chad). I’ll often spark up a conversation when I see them hanging around my camp for a while.
I don’t hide my gender but I do hide in party chats in PVP games. That’s the same thing. I’m supposed to *enjoy* the game, I don’t need someone vomiting their gendered anecdotal narrative to me just because my voice happened to be some pitches higher than theirs 💀
This began for me in middle school on Runescape – where I would play as a boy to not get harrassed, while the majority of girls I befriended were actually boys who played as girls for free shit and positive attention. What a world!
Just had this conversation recently on FB. One of the replies was from a guy certain that only about 24% of gamers were women. Like sir, no, and you would never know anyway because no one is going to want to talk to you with that attitude.
It’s sad that most women, including me, have to hide their gender just to play video games peacefully. It’s sad that we have to make male avatars and male or unisex usernames just to be taken seriously.
I have a unisex username to avoid getting bullied. When I first started TERA, I made male characters to avoid harassment. I was hit on in the game once. Started making male characters from then on. Any female character I made after that point, I started hiding global chat and kept hidden from other players. I kept quiet on mic during one session so men wouldn’t freak out. I lied about my gender to one man so I wouldn’t get hit on. After seeing harassment in global chat, I commented on how women like me pretend to be male to avoid this type of shit, and that we play male characters to avoid this problem as well.
I don’t use a mic. I stick to single player games. I disabled co-op in Genshin Impact. I disabled PSN messaging.
After being harassed for two days on WhatsApp, I blocked one guy from the game I played with. He tried to contact me again on regular messaging, but I blocked him there as well. Messenger was the last thing he tried to contact me on, and I blocked him there too.
The only reason I’m not sure if the statement is really true is that I’m not sure of the breakdown between single-player and multiplayer gaming numbers; even on points I agree with it feels weird to me to see “gaming” used for multiplayer games only.
I never hop on voice with people I don’t know. I used to go on raids in SWTOR only with my guild ( the guild leader was a woman and everyone was respectful) or people that are known by people from my guild. Same now in Guild Wars 2 ( which has a pretty wholesome community, so I don’t think it would be a problem there). I had people writing me private messages in SWTOR, because they assumed, I’m a woman, playing female characters, that are dressed. But I just reported and blocked them.
It is frustrating, how men think, it is ok to do that to women. There should be more severe consequences. Verbal assault is still assault.
I started playing World of Warcraft again and I didn’t have friends in the game so I went onto the friend finder. And because my battle net is clearly something a girl would choose (it’s my nickname) I had quite a few people ask to add me and play together. I was enjoying playing with one guy and he helped me a lot with raids and farming some gear. I mentioned I’m engaged a few times and he asked what my fiancée played for video games (so he clearly knew about him). We were having a fun time. Then he started getting really weird with me and saying really intimate things like “I wish you were going to be sleeping in my arms” and stuff like that. I immediately reminded him that I am in love with my partner of 5 years. My brother who also plays Warcraft said that with WoW players that I should just change my username and profile picture so they don’t think I’m a girl because I’ll get creeps. But I was mad because I shouldn’t have to do that…
It’s weird but I’m quite sad that I had to stop playing with this guy because I throughly enjoyed playing WoW with him. Oh well…
My battletag on Overwatch used to be the same as my username here (hannahpkmn). Paying the $10 to change it to something gender neutral made my social experience with that game so much better
It”s so sad, but who else is surprised… I think we all know this :/ For me, I usually make a gender-neutral or masc name/username for games. I’m more masc or a tomboy anyways, so I just like it in general, but still I am hesitant to use or make straight-up very girly or feminine usernames because others can use that against me if I’m playing poorly etc. Experienced it before and seen it happen to others too. Talking in voice chat too, way more hesitant as well.
I don’t really feel the need to announce my gender but not due to avoidance. It just doesn’t feel necessary. /shrug
I’m not in voice chat to do small talk in game lobbies so it’s like “purely business” and callouts only. If someone talks shit I just talk shit back. I become the troll.
in every single multiplayer game when someone discovers that you are a girl, they want to be with you, they ask for Instagram, phone number and it is always sexual. It is not harassment, but it is annoying.
yeah no shit, right?
And water is wet…
It’s so frustrating because I like making calls on overwatch but I do simply not have the energy to deal with men who make it a huge deal that I am a woman whether it’s “positive” or negative attention, I just want to play.
Or we avoid team gaming altogether.
In the beginning when I started gaming I used to do this, but now when I’m average to good at a certain game I flaunt it 😂 Catch me with a really girly nickname ✨ specially when I did VERY WELL in a round I go “GG’s UwU <3” just to be extra
Surprise surprise???? like wtf 😭
You don’t even have to do a study for this one lmao
I’ve been threat with sexual assault four times too many, one was a little boy a legit little boy.
It’s not surprise to us but there are sooo many gamer guys that don’t know and/or believe this lol. I’ve seen plenty of threads in this sub where a guy says “I changed my voice with voicechanger and couldn’t believe the amount of harassment I’ve gotten” yeah NO SHIT
WE KNOW
As if this is news to anyone lmao.
whaaaaat? you mean all those posts about voice changers are to avoid being attacked by assholes? or how alot of women are forced to change their tag to something less feminine to not get griefed/kicked 10 seconds into a match? shocking!!!! /s
I honestly cherish the moments I get mistaken for a dude and I can develop a human to human relationship with an online person.
Not surprised one bit.
Yeah because the second you get on a mic they freak💀
Or avoid multiplayer altogether. It’s sad men doing this to us is this common.
I straight up deepen my voice to that of a blazed out fuck boy for some games with prox chat lmao. I got tired of having to either be invisible or be harassed with dumb shit constantly. It’s fucking AWFUL out here.
It’s kind of don’t ask, don’t tell situation now. I don’t tell people in a game what I am and if they refer to me as him as a generalized pronoun based on assumption (as in: gamers seem to assume most other gamers are male) I let it fly without correcting them with a *”her or them, please?”* as it doesn’t gain me any satisfaction. In turn most people don’t ask as I rarely use voice chat and the games I play largely have a mature enough crowd to not care what I am. I imagine that’d be different in popular battle royale shooters where the majority of gamers are in the mid-teens to early twenties.
I always was so surprised when I saw girlies complaining about being harassed when playing games and maybe only a year ago I realised that I’ve never referred to myself in any feminine forms or used voice chats. On one side I’m happy I was “smart enough” to do so, on the other…. _What the hell is wrong with all those people,_ stay safe out there folks
I really wish I could use a cute name on steam or overwatch but I avoid it because I don’t want people to know i’m a woman most of the time. I really wish it wasn’t that way.
Amazing how many men don’t realise this. A friend of mine wanted me to play some online shooter with him, I said yeah, give me a moment to change my display name and make sure all the chat stuff is off. He asked why…
Yeah I wonder why 🙃
In Fallout 76 I’m constantly finding women players with “male” sounding names (____kenny or ____chad). I’ll often spark up a conversation when I see them hanging around my camp for a while.
I don’t hide my gender but I do hide in party chats in PVP games. That’s the same thing. I’m supposed to *enjoy* the game, I don’t need someone vomiting their gendered anecdotal narrative to me just because my voice happened to be some pitches higher than theirs 💀
Of course, people are scary
This began for me in middle school on Runescape – where I would play as a boy to not get harrassed, while the majority of girls I befriended were actually boys who played as girls for free shit and positive attention. What a world!
“buying gf 123”
Just had this conversation recently on FB. One of the replies was from a guy certain that only about 24% of gamers were women. Like sir, no, and you would never know anyway because no one is going to want to talk to you with that attitude.
It’s sad that most women, including me, have to hide their gender just to play video games peacefully. It’s sad that we have to make male avatars and male or unisex usernames just to be taken seriously.
I have a unisex username to avoid getting bullied. When I first started TERA, I made male characters to avoid harassment. I was hit on in the game once. Started making male characters from then on. Any female character I made after that point, I started hiding global chat and kept hidden from other players. I kept quiet on mic during one session so men wouldn’t freak out. I lied about my gender to one man so I wouldn’t get hit on. After seeing harassment in global chat, I commented on how women like me pretend to be male to avoid this type of shit, and that we play male characters to avoid this problem as well.
I don’t use a mic. I stick to single player games. I disabled co-op in Genshin Impact. I disabled PSN messaging.
After being harassed for two days on WhatsApp, I blocked one guy from the game I played with. He tried to contact me again on regular messaging, but I blocked him there as well. Messenger was the last thing he tried to contact me on, and I blocked him there too.
One of the reasons I only play single player games
Personally, I’ve given up on multiplayer gaming altogether, unless it’s with a set team of ppl I know.
The only reason I’m not sure if the statement is really true is that I’m not sure of the breakdown between single-player and multiplayer gaming numbers; even on points I agree with it feels weird to me to see “gaming” used for multiplayer games only.
I’m bad at it. I use a male name that’s a nickname and still get profiled without talking as a woman.
I don’t like hiding it so I just play with friends only (no randoms on my team and mute all chat) or I avoid multiplayer games if I’m solo
I never hop on voice with people I don’t know. I used to go on raids in SWTOR only with my guild ( the guild leader was a woman and everyone was respectful) or people that are known by people from my guild. Same now in Guild Wars 2 ( which has a pretty wholesome community, so I don’t think it would be a problem there). I had people writing me private messages in SWTOR, because they assumed, I’m a woman, playing female characters, that are dressed. But I just reported and blocked them.
It is frustrating, how men think, it is ok to do that to women. There should be more severe consequences. Verbal assault is still assault.
I started playing World of Warcraft again and I didn’t have friends in the game so I went onto the friend finder. And because my battle net is clearly something a girl would choose (it’s my nickname) I had quite a few people ask to add me and play together. I was enjoying playing with one guy and he helped me a lot with raids and farming some gear. I mentioned I’m engaged a few times and he asked what my fiancée played for video games (so he clearly knew about him). We were having a fun time. Then he started getting really weird with me and saying really intimate things like “I wish you were going to be sleeping in my arms” and stuff like that. I immediately reminded him that I am in love with my partner of 5 years. My brother who also plays Warcraft said that with WoW players that I should just change my username and profile picture so they don’t think I’m a girl because I’ll get creeps. But I was mad because I shouldn’t have to do that…
It’s weird but I’m quite sad that I had to stop playing with this guy because I throughly enjoyed playing WoW with him. Oh well…
My battletag on Overwatch used to be the same as my username here (hannahpkmn). Paying the $10 to change it to something gender neutral made my social experience with that game so much better
Yep, avoid mics in general.
In other news, the sky is blue.
Water is wet. Sandra! How’s the weather!
It’s so frustrating that this is still an issue in 2024. 🎮 Why can’t we just game in peace without the extra drama? How do you all handle this?
It”s so sad, but who else is surprised… I think we all know this :/ For me, I usually make a gender-neutral or masc name/username for games. I’m more masc or a tomboy anyways, so I just like it in general, but still I am hesitant to use or make straight-up very girly or feminine usernames because others can use that against me if I’m playing poorly etc. Experienced it before and seen it happen to others too. Talking in voice chat too, way more hesitant as well.
i don’t comm in valorant even though my servers aren’t toxic (warsaw), had one bad experience and afraid to turn on mic now, i do want to comm though
Depends on the type of game for me. I avoid voice chat on some games altogether.
I don’t really feel the need to announce my gender but not due to avoidance. It just doesn’t feel necessary. /shrug
I’m not in voice chat to do small talk in game lobbies so it’s like “purely business” and callouts only. If someone talks shit I just talk shit back. I become the troll.
No shit
in every single multiplayer game when someone discovers that you are a girl, they want to be with you, they ask for Instagram, phone number and it is always sexual. It is not harassment, but it is annoying.
This unfortunately
Hopefully in future, maybe male gamers are less toxic
Hopefully
Big if true
I’m trans so thankfully nobody can tell when I play online 🤣